MOOSE H ESI RT MAGAZINE
With Superintendent Adams at Mooseheart
Ten Minute Talks With High School Boys and Girls on Their Problems
(Superintendent Adams appoints daily one of the Senior Class to be acting chairman of the Assembly. He has also started to make ten minute talks to the Senior boys and girls on their every day life problems,—not the problems they are to those in charge. Here are samples of some of the talks. The stenographic and typewriting work on these was done by a Mooseheart girl who took verbatim what lie said.)
son that there is something׳ that makes other people respect them. If you want to correct such a person, you use a softer tone in your voice. While this is very useful in young-men it is tremendously important in young ladies. It wins them the character respect of other people.
Let Others Pass in and Out First
If you are showing visitors about the grounds and you go in some building, open the door and let them go in first. Always let them in or out first.
Walking with a Girl
If a boy is walking home with a girl friend, he should always walk on the outside or the street side of the walk. This does not mean that he should walk in the gutter and that she should walk on the sidewalk. This custom started many years ago when people were often attacked by robbers. The man would walk on the outside so he could get his sword out and defend those who were with him. This custom has come down to the present time. If a young man has two young׳ ladies with him, he should also walk on the outside and not between the two.
Going up and Down Stairs
In going down stairs girls and ladies go down first. In coming up stairs, men come up first. This is so, that in going down stairs, if the lady should fall the man can grasp hold of her shoulder and if she should fall backwards going up she can grab hold of the man’s coat. If you remember this it may save you from a very embar-rasing position some time.
In Going Into a Church or Theatre
The young man should go in first and walk down the aisle first, when he reaches the row where he is to sit, he should stand there, facing in the direction he has come, until the young-lady starts into the row to her seat.
A Seat in a Car
Another thing that always shows a person’s training׳ is this, whether or not he gets up to give his seat in a car to somebody that ought to have it. It may be a man and it may be a woman. If a woman or an aged man came in, it would be absolutely wrong for a boy to occupy his seat and make the lady or man stand. In the case of a girl, if an elderly lady comes in or a teacher or matron, it would be only right to give her the seat.
THE SACRED HOUR OF NINE.
At the hour of nine over six hundred thousand men have a prayer in their hearts for the children of MOOSEHEART.
We hope the time will come when every Moose Lodge, Club Home or Temple will have a bell that will ring-each night at the hour of nine.
Then people in the sixteen hundred towns and cities where Moose lodges are established will be reminded every night of every week of every year of the Moose Service to mankind.
Columbia, Washington, D. C., Lodge No. 126, will follow its usual custom this year as in the past to hold a series of concerts and dances during the winter months. Last year these events were well attended and proved a big help for the members to get together.
Lancaster, Pa., Lodge No. 299, is preparing to celebrate its tenth anniversary with the burning of the mortgage on its home. Recently a large class was initiated at which there were present Past Supreme Dictator John W. Ford, Brother Tobin and several others from Philadelphia Lodge No. 54.
MOOSEHEART did not train you well.
The girl or lady has a certain advantage over a young man in this fact, that she can keep her acquaintances or drop them as she chooses. If the girl walks along and does not notice you, but keeps her eyes straight ahead, that means that you are “turned down” as far as her acquaintance is concerned. It is always up to the young lady to recognize you first. If she does not nod her head or smile, you should not tip your hat. The girl may have met a boy or a man at a certain party but she does not wish to continue her acquaintance and this is one way to get rid of those whom she considers undesirable acquaintances.
Should You Eat Candy at a Show?
If you observe “well brought up” people or read such magazines as “Good Housekeeping” or “Ladies’ Home Journal,” you will learn that it is considered a breach of good manners to eat at a show or in public. You will see many people eating at a show and you will see many who do not, the latter are those who have been well trained at home.
Should Girls Chew Gum?
In motion pictures sometimes the father of the hero tries to get his son to marry some rich girl and when the son sees her for the first time, she is sometimes cross-eyed, or freckled faced, or pigeon toed, or homely dressed but she is always chewing-gum. This is a thing that makes a girl ubnoxious to all sensible boys.
Familiarity
A girl with any common sense at all, resents a boy taking hold of her arm when she is walking with him. If you are helping an old lady across the street, you take hold of her arm. A young one doesn’t need any aid. At times it is all right to take a lady’s Urm. For instance when your mother comes to visit, it is a fine thing to take her arm when you are walking with her. Boys who take hold of a girl’s arm or hold her hand unnecessarily are “sissies.”
Poise
One quality that a girl often possesses that a boy does not is poise, carrying- herself well or being serene. It is a splendid thing in young ladies or women. It is in this kind of per-
girls he will know that it is really emotion and that you have been affected by what they have done for you or given you. Ninety-nine people out of. a hundred do not understand that. If you say, “Thank you, very much, indeed,” you have gone a little father than just “‘Thank you,” and you have captured that person as far as doing something else for you goes. You are going a little farther than the usual thanks and it is appreciated.
“Excuse Me” and “Pardon Me”
I notice that some of you see no difference between “Excuse me” and "‘Pardon Me.” “Excuse me,” should be used when you leave the room or leave the table before others. It means you are going away or going-out. If you step in front of a person or step on their foot, you should say, “Pardon me.”	,
When two people are talking never interrupt them unless you say, “Pardon me,” and only interrupt when it is very important.
Raising the Hat
If you meet a lady or a girl you should, of course, lift your hat from your head and not simply touch it. When you are in an auto you can’t always lift your hat because your head is always too near the top.
If you are walking along with a girl friend and another young man comes along who knows you or her, you are expected to raise your hat to that young man. This is out of respect to her because you happen to be walking- with her. It isn’t polite, it isn’t courteous and it doesn’t show good breeding, if you do not take your hat off when you meet a girl or lady whom you know. Girls are the same sex as your mother and you would take your hat off to your mother. If you have the proper spirit and thoughtfulness, every time you lift your hat you will think of your mother. It will make you feel better and you will make a better young-man out of yourself.
If you want to show that you have come from a good family you will keep your hat in your hand while standing and talking to a young lady. It is customary to do this. If you do not do it people will say that you were not brought up well or in the ease of a Mooseheart hoy they will say that
Common Politeness.
Not the politeness of th-e aged nor that of the very young, but the common ordinary politeness and courtesy expected of the high school boy and girl, is one of your problems. There are certain ways of acting that you will need to follow if you are going to be associated with people who have been well trained.
Stand When Others Come Up and Talk to you.
If you are seated and some one comes over to talk to you, whether it be man, woman or child, you should stand up and remain standing until they are through.
In an Elevator.
If you go in an elevator and there are any ladies in it you should take off your hat and keep it off until you step out. Always let girls and ladies out of the elevator first, just as you step aside and let them on first.
How to Shake Hands.
I have considerable enjoyment studying people who come into my office. I notice the way they shake hands. I was always taught to grasp the hand good and hard and look the person in the eye. One day I had an embarrassing experience. I shook hands with a lady who had half a dozen rings on her hand. When I shook hands with her the rings hurt her hand. Now I am always careful not to grasp a lady’s hand as hard as I do a man’s. Never offer to shake hands with a lady, if she offers her hand, shake it; if she doesn’t, don’t offer yours. This is the custom.
1 notice as I shake hands with different men, that the man who comes along and gives me a flabby hand without any strength to it, is a flabby “wishey washey” sort of a person. If he does not look me right in the eye when he shakes hands with me, he is in the discard as far as I am personally concerned. He is not a strong man and the chances are not an honest one. He might be a very fine man, but surely is not a man of strong command, as far as the world goes. It is a mighty fine habit to get into, to look people in the eye and give them a firm hand clasp.
Don’t Cross Knees.
No boy or girl should ever cross their knees. It looks had. You might in your own private room or at a picture show, but never in a living room or in church.
When a Young Lady Enters the room
If you are in a room and a young lady comes in, you should immediately rise to your feet. It is courtesy to the one coming in. If you have been trained well you will offer her a chair whether she be sixteen or forty years old.
Introductions
When you introduce a gentleman and a lady, you say to the lady, “Please allow me to present Mr. So and So,” or “‘May I present Mr. So and So.” If you are introducing a very famous man to a number of people, always introduce them to him, the man of higher position.
How to Say “Thank You”
When somebody does something■ for you, and you want to thank them for it, you start to say “Thank you,” but your voice becomes husky and your. “Thank you” sounds cold and as if you did not really mean it. If the person understands boys and
MOOSEHEART’S STUDENTS FROM NEW YORK STATE
Supreme Councilman Willard Marakle, Supreme Trustee Lester W, Bloch, Brother Perry A. Shanor, Dictator New York City Lodge No. 15.